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31Dec 2007

"One Thing"

Remember “Curly”, the ascerbic senior wrangler played by Jack Palance in City Slickers? In the movie, Mitch (played by Billy Crystal) is in the midst of a midlife crisis brought on by his 39th birthday. So he and two friends go West to “find themselves” by participating in a cattle drive. Curly is the cowpoke in charge and gives Mitch

21Dec 2007

Leading the Family During the Holidays

This is the time of year when families gather together – college students are on break, young adults return home to visit, and the extended family celebrates Christmas and New Year’s together. So it is also the time when parents who have been successful in business turn their focus to their family. This is both a good thing and it

09Dec 2007

The Gift of Failure

Earlier this week, I had the unique opportunity of a quiet evening alone at home. I had been working fairly hard, so I decided to “kick back” a little and I rented a movie. Now, my movie watching patterns are different than most adults. Given the type of work I do, I usually am not that interested in some high

25Nov 2007

Healthy & Unhealthy Boundaries — Their Impact on Our Lives

I’ve been thinking about boundaries lately, and observing how significantly they impact our daily lives. The lack of boundaries in relationships (or attempts to overstep established boundaries) seem to be a frequent cause of relational tension. Obviously, there are different levels at which to consider boundaries — at the geopolitical level (e.g. the border between the United States and Mexico),

11Nov 2007

Networking – Some additional thoughts and reflections

“Networking” is obviously not only about trying to use relational contacts to find a job or find a quality person for a position you are trying to fill.  We use our social networks for a variety of purposes — finding quality professionals or technicians for tasks we need to get done, locating charitable organizations that are good stewards of the

04Nov 2007

"Perception is Reality" — Not Always True

In my work with people, I often deal with individuals’ reactions to situations as well as communication issues between co-workers and family members. As a result, in the process of working through these issues, people often say to me, “Well, you know, perception is reality.” Sometimes they say this to explain how miscommunication occurred with another person, or why they

25Oct 2007

Networking Can Maximize the Search for Good Hires

Networking Can Maximize the Search for Good Hires I was talking to a friend who is the vice president for business development at his company. He was looking for a new project manager. “If you hear of anyone who may fit the qualifications, have them contact me,” he said. I asked him why couldn’t he find someone through the regular

21Oct 2007

The Dark Side of Wealth: Risks associated with growing up in an affluent family – Risk #3: Low self-esteem

The third theme I have observed in financially successful families is that many of their children and grandchildren struggle with poor self-esteem and low self-confidence.  Now let’s get this straight from the beginning — although I am a psychologist, I do not believe that feeling good about oneself is the goal of life (nor of parenting or education).  Self-esteem (that is,

13Oct 2007

The Dark Side of Wealth: Risks associated with growing up in an affluent family — Risk #2: No sense of direction or purpose in life

Following up last week’s entry on the risk of drug and alcohol abuse in wealthy families, the second risk from growing up in an affluent family I see among second- and third-generation family members is an overall sense of being “lost” in life. I frequently “interact with” individuals who have been raised in a wealthy environment, and they really don’t

07Oct 2007

The Dark Side of Wealth: Risks associated with growing up in an affluent family — Risk #1: Drug & Alcohol Abuse

I apologize to my friend, Thayer Willis, for borrowing from the title of her excellent book, Navigating the Dark Side of Wealth, for this entry, but I really couldn’t think of a better description of the topic. As I work with financially successful families across the country, I repeatedly see three negative patterns in family members. Most often (but not always)

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