Character/Values


03Feb 2008

4-1 = 0, The Confusing Truth of Emotional Intelligence and Finding Good Employees

When I have the same issue repeat itself three times in one week in different settings, I reach the conclusion that I better write about the issue. A growing issue for businesses is the challenge of finding quality employees. And, as we have discussed previously, it is currently equally difficult for individuals seeking work to find jobs which are a

29Jan 2008

What Do You Do When You Are Overwhelmed?

Ok. Confession time. I am feeling overwhelmed. It seems like I have more work (and other life tasks) to do than I have time and mental (or emotional) energy. [I can hear the thoughts now: “Physician (or psychologist), heal thyself!”] Let me explain the reasons for my current condition (from my perspective, that is; my wife will probably have other

13Jan 2008

Doing the Daily Speel

As one of my friends often says, “Life is daily.” And this is the time of year that proves the point. Mid-January, February, and March is the time of year where we often have to just “gut it out” on a daily basis. The holidays are over, most vacations are done, and now is the time to get stuff done.

07Jan 2008

Animation + French Cuisine = Principles for Success in Creative Businesses

This weekend I had the privilege of facilitating a family meeting in Northern California with a family I have known for over six years, and we had a great time together. I returned home yesterday afternoon, and as part of my recuperation and re-entry into the family process, my family and I watched a movie together last night. For those

31Dec 2007

"One Thing"

Remember “Curly”, the ascerbic senior wrangler played by Jack Palance in City Slickers? In the movie, Mitch (played by Billy Crystal) is in the midst of a midlife crisis brought on by his 39th birthday. So he and two friends go West to “find themselves” by participating in a cattle drive. Curly is the cowpoke in charge and gives Mitch

09Dec 2007

The Gift of Failure

Earlier this week, I had the unique opportunity of a quiet evening alone at home. I had been working fairly hard, so I decided to “kick back” a little and I rented a movie. Now, my movie watching patterns are different than most adults. Given the type of work I do, I usually am not that interested in some high

25Nov 2007

Healthy & Unhealthy Boundaries — Their Impact on Our Lives

I’ve been thinking about boundaries lately, and observing how significantly they impact our daily lives. The lack of boundaries in relationships (or attempts to overstep established boundaries) seem to be a frequent cause of relational tension. Obviously, there are different levels at which to consider boundaries — at the geopolitical level (e.g. the border between the United States and Mexico),

04Nov 2007

"Perception is Reality" — Not Always True

In my work with people, I often deal with individuals’ reactions to situations as well as communication issues between co-workers and family members. As a result, in the process of working through these issues, people often say to me, “Well, you know, perception is reality.” Sometimes they say this to explain how miscommunication occurred with another person, or why they

21Oct 2007

The Dark Side of Wealth: Risks associated with growing up in an affluent family – Risk #3: Low self-esteem

The third theme I have observed in financially successful families is that many of their children and grandchildren struggle with poor self-esteem and low self-confidence.  Now let’s get this straight from the beginning — although I am a psychologist, I do not believe that feeling good about oneself is the goal of life (nor of parenting or education).  Self-esteem (that is,

07Oct 2007

The Dark Side of Wealth: Risks associated with growing up in an affluent family — Risk #1: Drug & Alcohol Abuse

I apologize to my friend, Thayer Willis, for borrowing from the title of her excellent book, Navigating the Dark Side of Wealth, for this entry, but I really couldn’t think of a better description of the topic. As I work with financially successful families across the country, I repeatedly see three negative patterns in family members. Most often (but not always)

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