Relationships/Family


22Nov 2016

Don’t Be a Turkey in How You Communicate Appreciation This Thanksgiving

Team leaders are often encouraged (“bombarded” is actually a better word) to communicate appreciation to colleagues during the Thanksgiving holiday season. Expressing thanks for a job well done is sure to be received well, right? Not necessarily. At times, clueless managers are at risk for saying “thanks” in ways that won’t be received well. They don’t really “get” appreciation and

19Feb 2014

How Being Invited to Have a Snowball Fight Made My Day

Last week, we had a fairly large snowstorm roll through, leaving about 7″ of snow on the ground (which is a fair amount for us, but nothing in comparison to the Northeast). And it stayed cold for a number of days, so the snow stayed around. This weekend it warmed up a little, so the snow was really good for

08Feb 2014

What is the Connection between Valentine’s Day and Appreciation in the Workplace? Not Much! (with one exception)

Valentine’s day is quickly approaching. It is a great opportunity to communicate your love to those close to you. Unfortunately, it seems many in the world of employee recognition try to link recognition and appreciation to any holiday (I can’t wait to see what they try to do with St. Patrick’s Day!) So let me state firmly upfront — there

05Dec 2013

Why Authenticity is All You Need During the Holidays

We all feel a lot of pressure regarding things we “should do” during the holidays — for our family, friends, co-workers, clients, boss.  It gets to the point that the expectations feel overwhelming, and the temptation is just to “shut down” and do nothing (for anyone!)  This is typically not a good solution. Let me offer an alternative solution to

01Dec 2013

Transitioning into Young Adulthood — 5 Steps for a Smoother Pathway

Recently, a few Baby Boomer parents have talked with me about the difficulties their young adult children are experiencing in transitioning from college into adulthood — and asked me to write some tips for young adults to help make this season of their life go better.  Ok, so here are my thoughts. First, let’s understand why so many young people

08Sep 2013

Do You Communicate in Morse Code, FM radio waves or HDTV?

The fact that people have different communication styles in not news. However, I have found a “word picture” that seems to really help individuals get a better sense of how different they are from others, and also gives a clearer understanding on the challenges they have in communicating effectively with those close to them. There is a wide range in

02Jul 2013

An Antidote for Disengagement: Being appreciative for your job

As I wrote recently, research was released by the Gallup organization that found only 3 out of 10 U.S. employees are actively engaged in their work from a mental, emotional and volitional (a choice of the will) point of view.  Conversely, 52% of employees were found to be not engaged and 18% are actively disengaged.  This latter group is a

22Mar 2013

Why “Everybody Just Get Along” Isn’t a Good Long-term Strategy for a Healthy Family

In working with family-owned businesses for several years now, I’ve seen one pattern of relating that consistently doesn’t work over the long term.  In many families there is a mantra that dictates the family members’ behavior, and that can carry over to the business as well.  It is: “Now let’s all just get along.”  While the “just get along” message

13Jan 2013

The Dangerous Pathway of Rescuing Others from Their Choices

I have been working with families, kids, teens and young adults for 30 years now.  One of the most common challenges I see individuals experience is knowing when to let their family members experience the results of their choices and when to intervene and “rescue” them from the negative consequences they will be facing. (Interestingly, the situation often occurs with

07Dec 2012

How to Give a Meaningful Gift to Your Boss (or Colleagues)

Now is the time when many of us are starting to think: “I’d like to get my boss a gift for Christmas — just a little something — but what?  I don’t want it to look like I’m trying to gain her favor.  But I don’t want just to give her some token ‘something’ that will look schmaltzy.  (And I

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